Six things I want my daughter to know

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Today while driving we passed a cemetery. My daughter asked, “would you rather be buried or cremated?”   “Cremated,” I responded without hesitation. “I don’t want you to have the expense of a coffin and burial when I’m gone.” The last part surprised me as it sprang from my mouth. I had always wanted to be cremated, but for unknown reasons until now. I realized at that moment how concern for my children influences every single decision I make. The short exchange drew me to thoughts of my own mortality. My sister, age 40, is expecting her first child next month. At 43, I […]

Five-minute Friday: Finish

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C’mon baby finish what you started. That’s how the song goes. Sometimes the scariest part of starting something is knowing we have to finish. That’s why we often never start. I’ve started lots of things I haven’t finished. It used to be because I had no “stick-to-it-ive-ness”. That’s a quality my grade school teacher espoused above all others. I used to self-sabotage. I was so used to feeling bad that when something started to feel good I would end it. I don’t do that anymore. If I stop something before I finish it’s because God had something else for me […]

Quitting Thursday Linkup: Blessed

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Today’s featured post from last week’s linkup is She Blessed a Child by Chris Malkemes. The heart-wrenching piece tells the story of Chris as a little girl getting off the church bus alone and receiving the kindness of a stranger: I jumped off the bus feeling as lost as a puppy. I don’t think anyone noticed me. She did. She led me to the clean church bathroom…She pulled a brush out of her bag and detangled my gnarled, unkempt tresses… She pinned my hair up using the bobby pins from her own french bun. Gently she washed my face and hands, then […]

What is the difference between happiness and joy?

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What is the difference between happiness and joy? In Galatians 5:22-23 Paul describes the fruit of the Spirit: JOY is right up there after love. Joy has held my attention lately as the Lord compels me to ponder the fruit of the Spirit and how it’s displayed in my life. If you’ve come through a lot of trauma, joy can feel out of reach and even phony. You associate joy with those plastered-on smiles that prevent people from knowing or even asking about the real you. Freedom from such pretense is joy in itself. Three years after my marriage ended, I entered […]

Five-minute Friday: Bloom where you’re planted

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Bloom where you’re planted. That’s what they say, but I wonder if it’s true? That phrase is not found anywhere in the Bible. Still, people recite it as though it were gospel truth. 1 Corinthians 7:17 does mention: let each of you lead the life that the Lord has assigned, to which God called you. Bloom where you’re planted means to be content in all circumstances, to stop waiting for some perfect future time to begin. Begin NOW. Even if your kids are small. Even if you’re feeling depressed. Even if you’re feeling not good enough. God is good enough. He […]

Quitting Thursday Linkup: Fruit of the Spirit

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Today’s featured post from last week’s linkup comes courtesy of Mel Caldicott at Essential Thing Devotions. She writes about Intentional Kindness – A Choice to Change the World: We live in a world where people are consumed by the push from our culture to plough their energies into looking after themselves – earning money for all the possessions they want to buy, investing time into nurturing their homes and possessions and expending their energies into maintaining the velocity of the whole materialistic treadmill. The results of this are that people have very little time left for others. Is all hope lost? Are we […]

Pay it forward: a blog hop

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I first heard the term “Pay it forward” in the book by the same name, which later became a movie, by Catherine Ryan Hyde. A Grade 7 student devises a school project in which favors are paid forward to other people rather than being repaid to the giver. According to Wikipedia, the concept can be traced back to 1916 and may have been coined by Lily Hardy Hammond in her book In the Garden of Delight. Joanne Viola at Days n’ Thoughts invited me to partake in a Pay It Forward-themed blog hop. She featured me last week and I’m introducing you to […]

20 ways to keep your cool (when you’re ready to blow your stack)

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I’m thinking about kids here but these could apply in many situations: with other family members, at work or with a friend. The consequences of “losing it” with someone we love lasts so much longer than the split second it takes to lash out. Once those words are released, there’s no taking them back. Here are 20 ways to keep your cool when you feel about to explode like a grenade: 1. Count to ten. 2. Hold your tongue. 3. Leave the room. 4. Consider the consequences. 5. Lower your voice. 6. Take a deep breath. 7. Eat something. 8. […]

20 fun things to do with your kids this summer (cheap)

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Your budget is the same in summer as any other time of year. Maybe less if you have to take time off to be with your kids. How to fill all those longs days without overspending? Here are 20 fun things to do with your kids this summer that will hardly cost you anything at all. 1. Go fly a kite. 2. Splash at a free local pool or water park. 3. Visit a petting zoo. 4. Pick strawberries, raspberries or snow peas. 5. Play Old Maid or Crazy Eights. 6. Toss a Frisbee. 7. Make frozen lemonade. (Crush 1 cup water, […]

20 ways to love your child unconditionally

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Ever get caught up in the discipline and training of parenting? Do you wonder how you could be more loving, show your child you love her no matter what? I was asking myself those very questions and came up with the following list of 20 ways to love your child unconditionally. Most of these take little to no effort and serve simply as reminders that love can be shown throughout the day in myriad little ways. 1. Accept her as she is. 2. Tell her you love her no matter what she does. 3. Listen longer. Sometimes you have to wait past the surface […]